There is an idea permeating in modern culture that success means you become an entrepreneur. That is correct to some degree, but you can also achieve financial success being an employee. The challenges that employees face are different than entrepreneurs, and one of them is job interview anxiety.
Feeling anxious about a job interview is common, and you may have experienced it more than once. It doesn’t mean that you can’t land the job if you’re anxious during the interview, but it does hurt your chances. Hence, resolving your anxiety before or during an interview is important to prevent you not getting hired because you didn’t communicate effectively.
Anxiety Makes an Interview Become Difficult
Anxiety about an upcoming job interview can show up in many forms. Your stomach feels tight on the morning of your interview, you couldn’t sleep soundly during the night, you choke when you answer questions, your face becomes red, and feeling not sure about yourself when facing an interviewer can get in the way of you reaching your goal.
The adrenaline and cortisol levels become imbalanced in your body. This imbalance can make you feel restless, agitated, and unable to speak calmly. All these factors combined make a simple job interview become a mountainous task where you feel almost powerless.
What Makes You Anxious – Attachment to Outcome
How do you avoid anxiety so that you can do a smooth job interview? There are some common sense attitudes you can implement, such as realizing that being nervous doesn’t help you get the job. Being confident and staying positive can help, but it doesn’t address the underlying issue of your anxiety.
The positive mindset to cultivate during the interview is to think that the interviewer wants to help you. Think about it: it would be beneficial for them to find out about you as thoroughly as possible, knowing about your strengths and weaknesses. They don’t want you to fail because it means they have to interview another person, and that takes time. They want you to succeed so they can find a suitable person for the open position they are offering.
Preparing for your interview also helps. You could argue that preparing for an interview increases your anxiety because you are expecting it. But preparation can equip you with the right knowledge to answer the interviewer’s questions. Learn about the position you are applying for and also about the company you are going to work for. Perhaps even learn about the interviewer, if you know who they are.
These points do help to reduce your job interview anxiety, but there is one main point to understand. Your anxiety comes from not knowing the outcome and from wanting to protect your self image.
Not knowing a clear outcome makes the brain alarmed and overtly alert. Your brain is constantly scanning for clues as to what outcome is going to happen. It can even make the mistake of reading wrong signs that lead you to believe you’re going to fail, when actually the interview is going fine.
Your brain also wants to protect your self image, mainly to preserve the idea that you are a likable person. Should you fail the interview, your brain overreacts by thinking you are no longer likable. Thinking like this makes you feel less worthy, and predicting this outcome increases your anxiety.
You can resolve your anxiety by understanding that you don’t fail an interview. Imagine you are going on a date and you are talking with your date. You have a decent time, but at the end of the night you decide you aren’t a good match for each other. Should you feel that you have failed, or simply going through the process of finding a good match?
You become anxious when you want a certain outcome, such as you have to get this job. You feel powerless when you think this is the only job opportunity you have, and there is no other. Similar to dating, you should understand that there are many other opportunities you can try, some even better.
Using Tapping to Do a Great Job Interview
Letting go of your attachment to a certain outcome also means letting go of your self image. It’s not easy to do at first, but it feels liberating once you do it. You’re no longer controlled by what you can’t control, and you feel at ease and ready to move on to the next step.
Tapping can certainly help you to let go of your attachment and reduce your anxiety. You can begin with the phrase, “Even though I don’t know what will happen, I deeply love and accept myself.”
There are many guided Tapping sessions that address the issue of anxiety, especially the first week of the Tapping Solution for Financial Success that talks about feeling overwhelmed and anxious. Brad Yates, one of my favorite Tapping experts, also has a video about handling a job interview: