Many of us have a voice in our head that becomes an inner critic. It’s the voice that says you can’t do what you want to do because you’re not smart enough or some other arbitrary reason. Hearing this voice and obeying it often times makes us unhappy.
Self criticism is mostly inaccurate since it’s based on assumptions and conclusions instead of truly understanding what you can and can’t do. It can get in the way of creating success and happiness.
Therefore, we need to know when to tone down that inner critic.
It’s important to note that there is rarely a time a critic is necessary. What your heart needs is guidance and mentorship, not criticism. A guide walks along the path with you, helping you, supporting you, while a critic merely says words but doesn’t have any skin in the game.
The criticizing words come from the brain, but the listening is done by our heart. When the words are sharp, the soft heart can get hurt and become closed. This closed heart becomes a block in our energy system that needs to be reopened, and that can be done with Tapping.
Margaret Lynch says that the ruthless critic can cause your heart chakra to close. Tapping on the criticism, the specific words that you hear from your brain, can break that block and reopen the heart chakra, allowing for the emotions to become released and relieved.
Though the criticism is not accurate, the words hurt regardless. This hurt may only reveal itself once you quiet down the inner critic and allow your feelings to be heard.
When you Tap on this issue, you may feel a flood of emotions. It’s alright to let these emotions come out, so that you can begin the path of self love and self caring.
Dissolving the inner critical voice and practicing self love instead by finding guidance is the key to success and happiness. To begin dissolving it, follow this Tapping script from Brad Yates about needing to beat yourself up:
Karate Chop: Even though I feel a need to beat myself up, I choose to love and accept myself anyway
Even though I am compelled to beat myself up, I choose to love and honor myself anyway
Even though I think I need to beat myself up, because of something that I’ve done or failed to do, and I need to teach myself a lesson, I deeply and completely love honor and accept myself
Eyebrow: All this need to beat myself up
Side of Eye: All this urge to beat myself up
Under Eye: I can’t help myself
Under Nose: I’ve done something wrong
Chin: And I need to punish myself to teach myself a lesson
Collarbone: That’s what my programming tells me
Under Arm: I’m not doing this because I’m bad or stupid
Top of Head: I’m just following directions
I’m following them brilliantly
I’m not stupid, I’m brilliant
But I’m following the wrong directions
At least not the most pleasant directions
Or even the most helpful ones
Because if beating myself up really worked
What would I be doing now?
Wouldn’t I be much more successful, happy, and healthy?
But I’ve been doing the best I know
Based on misinformation I got
In the past, I was beaten up
Emotionally, if not physically
And maybe not even harshly
But just enough to feel pain
So that I would learn my lesson and do things differently
Sometimes it worked, and sometimes it didn’t
But it wasn’t the healthiest way to modify behavior
I’m finding better ways to change my ways
And the more I treat myself with love
The more I naturally do better
Releasing any need to beat myself up
I’m now treating myself with love
And I deserve that
In body mind and spirit