Shining and being your best self means dissolving negative beliefs so that you can be creative and in the flow to live a fulfilling and satisfying life.
Tapping is effective to dissolve the negative beliefs you have about yourself. Negative beliefs are what we think about ourselves that we assume to keep us safe but instead only make us mediocre. Living a fulfilling life means being great and not obeying those beliefs.
Margaret Lynch, a Tapping expert who focuses on issues of money, says that one of the highest achivements in life is stepping up to shine. In her 2015 Tapping World Summit session, she talks about shining, or expressing our full potential, and several obstacles that make us not do it.
When we shine, we are in the flow. Flow is a state of mind and body where you are focused on being creative and expressing your passion, a state where you are happy, fulfilled and satisfied. Other people become inspired when they see us living this way, and they begin to shine too. The hope is that the whole world shines in harmony and we live great lives.
Obviously, the majority of people alive don’t live this way – but we should.
We aren’t living in flow or shining because we may be afraid. Fear rules over our thoughts and actions. We are afraid because we feel that when we shine, we attract unwanted attention and we don’t want to stand in the spotlight. I know that’s how I feel sometimes when I need to speak up.
Being mediocre can feel safe, but it doesn’t make us happy. Instead, we are happy when we are in a state of high level of productivity where our creative ideas flow. We solve problems, create a better living environment and increase the wealth and prosperity of our community.
What are some of the causes that prevent us from shining and being happy?
1. Don’t Be Loud
As Margaret explains, you may have embedded programs and rules about not shining. Certainly, society has norms about expecting children to behave a certain way, such as not being loud when they’re playing or talking to adults.
Some rules are good for children and keep them safe. However, these norms can have an effect on a person until they grow up and become adults where it doesn’t apply anymore. Some adults still follow the rules they did when they were children and it prevents them from shining.
2. Find a Stable Job
Another potential cause is what society thinks about the risks of following your passion or doing what you love. Steady, so-called boring jobs are necessary for society to function, but so are jobs that break the convention.
Starting a new job or business is often considered highly risky, and your family or loved ones may persuade you not to do it. It’s especially difficult when you already have responsibilities, like taking care of children or parents.
An example of this second cause combined with the first cause is your parent’s paradigm. Maybe you want to try and start your own business (which is doable in this internet era), but your parents see it as very risky, since they come from the era where jobs and careers were stable. Therefore, they get angry when they find out you left your job to start a business, and it makes you sad.
3. Women Belong at Home
A third cause that prevents us shining, especially for women, is the social expectation about gender. The expectation that women take care of the home is still very strong in our society. There is a good reason for it, and when executed correctly, does produce the best result: a happy and healthy home.
But it can also trap women who want to try and begin a new path in their life to shine. There are many cases where women have to fight the expectations of society, even after they have proven being capable of success. Women may become guilty for choosing to pursue a career instead of a family, and they don’t dare to shine.
4. Don’t Do Anything Risky
The fourth possible cause is past trauma. You’ve tried to break a rule in the past, or take a risk, and it failed or got you hurt in some way. Maybe you started a business and it went bankrupt, or you made a career change and it was a dead end. This trauma can prevent you from taking further risks in life, even in other areas not directly related.
Tapping to Be Creative and in the Flow
You don’t have to take every risk to shine, but shining often means living to your full potential, and that means taking new risks. Here is where Tapping can help you to overcome that past trauma or social programming deeply embedded in your mind and body.
Emotional trauma and mental programming can leave a physical impact, or at least disturb your body’s energy system. By Tapping on these points, following Margaret’s session in the Tapping World Summit, you can begin to clear those energy disturbances and focus on being creative and in the flow.