I want to reduce my fear of lack of money by doing the 40-day Tapping challenge.
Being a user of Tapping for years, I’ve decided to join the ‘movement’ and document my own journey. The difference is that I will be focusing on a primary fear I have had for years: fear of lack of money.
Therefore, my personal aim is to reduce this fear so I can spend more time being resourceful and creative, which is important so I can make the amount of money I want. Nick Ortner says that money issues is the primary fear for many people, so I hope my journey can be of benefit to you too.
Day 1: Be Truly Free From Fear
I had an epiphany as I tapped along to Margaret Lynch’s session from the 2012 Tapping World Summit. I realized that the only way to be truly free is to not be afraid. In my situation, I suffer from fear of lack of money because I don’t have a steady income. In other words: I need a certain amount of money to live, but I don’t make that amount.
I remember Nick Ortner saying that money problems is the #1 problem for many people using Tapping. While reading Margaret’s Tapping script, I realized to solve my money problems, I have to not be afraid of not having money. When I am afraid, I become attached to the outcome – and when I am attached, I am controlled by the situation instead of being in control of it.
What if it’s OK to not have money?
Only when I can accept that thought as a truth can I truly be free from my fear of lack of money. Only then I can become a “master” of money because I don’t allow the fear to control me. I am still at the beginning of my journey, but I am sure that someday I will be free from the fear and live a free life.
Day 2: Let Go of What People Think
Today I am Tapping along to Pamela Bruner’s session from the 2012 World Summit, which is still on the topic of money beliefs. One thing I am aware of while reading the script is how most of my fears are affected by what other people think. In other words: I worry too much about what people think of me, instead of how I feel myself.
One comment I read from the Tapping community on Facebook is how Tapping can give you “A-ha” moments. These moments give you clarity and maybe even an epiphany to what is REALLY giving you a problem.
Today, the clarity I see is that I fear lack of money because I worry what other people will think about me if I don’t have money. I am afraid of not having money not because of actually not having money, but because of how other people will think I am worthless because I have no money.
It’s not easy to simply shake off what other people think. I will always be affected by how other people think about me, especially people close to me. However, simply being aware of this fact gives me more control of how I feel and therefore how I will react. I reminds me of what I read in Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People:
“Between stimulus and response, lies a space. In that space, lies our freedom to choose. In our freedom to choose, lies our happiness.”
I feel that Tapping allows me to create a larger space, so I can choose my response better and healthier.
Day 3: Tapping On Not Feeling Any Changes
I didn’t feel any significant changes or had any a-ha insights. However, there is a comment made by a person on the Tapping Facebook page that caught my attention. He was worried that he was doing it wrong because he wasn’t feeling any changes.
And to that I replied, “Tap on not feeling any changes.”
Sometimes you put so much pressure on Tapping that it makes you stressed – which is exactly the opposite of what you should be feeling! Not everybody gets to feel an immediate shift, and that is alright. If you don’t feel any big shifts, and it makes you worry, than you can tap on it by saying:
“Even though I don’t feel any changes yet, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
This is the case for me today. I didn’t feel any big changes while Tapping to Nick’s session. But I know the most important thing is to keep Tapping because every little bit helps.
Day 4: I Prefer to Tap in Private
Today is different because I almost didn’t Tap. You see, the house where I live is being renovated and almost all the rooms are being dismantled so it can be cleaned. I couldn’t get any privacy.
I tried going down to the kitchen where it’s rather quiet, but it wasn’t comfortable. It made me realize that even though Tapping is mobile and compact, I prefer to Tap in privacy.
It’s an issue for me: I prefer people not know what I am working on, even family members. I prefer they simply see the end result without having to know the details along the way. Sometimes it means I have to do things on my own, but it also means I learn to be self reliant.
The lesson here is it’s good to adjust Tapping to your style. If you prefer privacy like me, then you need to make arrangements in case you get caught in a situation where you can’t get privacy (hint: there’s always the bathroom!)
Day 5: Money is No Big Deal
It’s no big deal.
That’s what crossed my mind as I was Tapping to Pamela Bruner’s session from the recent Summit. She does a routine about money beliefs that money is wrong, a necessary evil. Here is a short excerpt from the transcript:
EB: Money’s just wrong
SE: I know I need it
UE: I have to pay rent, I have to eat
UN: But it feels like money is a necessary evil
CH: And if I get too involved with money
CB: I know it’s going to corrupt me
UA: How on earth can I be spiritual
TH: When I have to think about money all the time?
Maybe I have been making progress, because I think these thoughts are making too big a deal out of money. Money is important, but it’s not THAT important – not important enough to make you stress heavily from wanting to make lots of it.
If you look back at history, money is simply a form of value exchange. At the beginning, societies operated using barter, then switched to gold and copper coins. It wasn’t until the recent century that central banks started appearing and paper money went into circulation. In the future, money will probably be code – digits and numbers being transferred in digital space.
In other words: put money into perspective. It’s no big deal if you aren’t making enough money. It’s no big deal if you are making lots of it either. I believe by being unattached to the mechanics of money – and being attached to the principles of value exchange instead – is the key to being free from the fear of lack of money.
Day 6: Family Can Be a Source of Stress
I didn’t Tap for the last 3 days because it’s a long weekend here and I got out to socialize and meet people. Today, I return to Tapping and also return to the Tapping for money script by Margaret Lynch from the 2012 Summit. In my opinion, this is the script that resonates the most with me.
I’ve come to realize that my money fears actually come from my immediate environment, such as family. It’s not that I fear lack of money – it’s that I fear what it will make me look like in front of family. This is a paradox: shouldn’t family be the place where I feel loved and welcomed without pre-requisites, such as having to have a good job?
Shouldn’t a family and a home be a place, a sanctuary where I can relax and heal and recharge to tackle the hunt of the next day? Instead, it can often be the source of stress itself because of what other people think my life should be like.
On the 2nd day I wrote about not worrying what other people think. However, I think it’s more difficult when applied to family members because their opinion and expectations matter. I believe it requires much wisdom and courage to know when to accept what your family thinks, and when to say no to them to protect what you believe in.
Day 7: Keep Doing It
Today I am not feeling anything new or significant. Even so, it’s important to continue Tapping. When you are forming a new habit, you must do it consistently until it becomes a habit.
Another lesson is to keep doing it even when you don’t feel like doing it. Today, I don’t feel like doing it, but I know it’s important to stay on track. The next Tapping will be better!
Day 8: Money Loves Action
Since I feel I connect the most with Margaret Lynch, today I did something different. I visited her blog to find if she has more Tapping scripts around money. Yes, she does.
Margaret mentions that money loves action. Simply Tapping on money issues without taking action won’t bring you the money. You have to take the action even if it makes you break into a cold sweat.
To help you take on that big action, Margaret has a Tapping script on it here. I think I am doing what I should be doing to make money, but I wonder if there is something more to do?
The action that I have taken today is starting a new income idea I have by registering a new website. I don’t feel any extreme anxiety about it, but if I do I know I can rely on Tapping to keep me going.
Day 9: Will It Be Enough?
I don’t think I am doing this challenge correctly. I remember Nick saying in the Facebook group that the goal is to tap for 15 minutes a day. The way I do it though is sometimes more than 15 minutes, and sometimes less than 15 minutes. I figure that’s OK – as long as I do Tap then it’s fine.
I’ve started reading Nick’s book “Tapping Solution: Revolutionary System for Stress-Free Living”. In the second chapter, there is a quick start exercise. Even though I already know how to do Tapping, I decided to do the exercise as if I didn’t know Tapping, and the results are great.
When Nick asked what’s my MPI (Most Pressing Issue), of course the answer is money. Then when he asked me to describe it, the sentence naturally came to my mind, “I feel afraid because I don’t know how much money I’m going to make this month”. This is a great expression of how I feel!
As I did the exercise further and tapped using this sentence as my setup statement and reminder phrase, another even more insightful sentence came to my mind: “Will it be enough?”. That is the basis of my fear – I don’t know how much money I’m going to make this month, and will it be enough?
Now the question is, enough for what?
Day 10: She Was Crushed by a Delivery Truck
During this week, I am listening to the Art of Love Relationship Series hosted by Arielle Ford. It’s a 9 day telesummit, similar to the Tapping World Summit. This event focuses on relationships, and today Nick Ortner was a speaker who helped a woman tap through her relationship problems.
This woman had an accident: she was crushed by a delivery truck around one month after her wedding. Her injuries made her unable to work and also made it difficult for her and her husband to be physically intimate. Nick walked her through the tapping, and she released a lot of negative emotions held inside.
As I listened to her Tapping session, I realized that the physical injury might have healed already, but the emotional and mental injury still very much hurt. She is crushed both ways – literally crushed physically and crushed mentally and emotionally. The physical pain can be healed fast, but the emotional and mental pain lasts for a long time.
I think this woman still holds deep issues that can’t be resolved with only a 15 minute session. Even so, her experience reminds me the power of Tapping and the question Rick Wilkes asks in the opening of the 2nd chapter of Nick’s book:
“If someone can be traumatized in 30 seconds, why can’t they be healed in a day, an hour, a minute?”
Day 11: The Danger of Focusing Only On Money
There is a great article by Michele Pariza Waceck about the dangers of focusing only on money. She writes about her own personal development journey where she only thought about money breakthrough without thinking of other areas of her life.
It’s a good read that resonates with me because I am guilty of the same mistake. Michele writes about having a “feast or famine” income, and I have that also. It means sometimes I make a large amount of income that makes me want to party, other times it thins out and stresses me out.
I too realize what she realized and have adjusted accordingly. Once I achieved a certain level of income I decided to start working on other areas of my life, mainly relationships and health. Even so, money is still my primary concern because I feel it is the first aspect to get right before I can start getting other aspects of my life right.
Her writing reminds me to keep working on other aspects, even though money is my primary focus. Maybe I should start tapping on other issues? But then I would decrease my concentration, so I think continuing with money issues until Day 40 is still OK.
Day 12: Fear of Uncertainty
I’m still continuing with the self made script about money issues. However, today another thought came into my mind as I was tapping: I am afraid about uncertainty.
Money isn’t the only thing in my life that is uncertain. I also have problems of uncertainty in the area of relationships. Even so, I still want to focus only on money issues during this 40-day challenge.
I suppose you can say that I have a fear of uncertainty. It makes me anxious and apprehensive, I can’t sleep at night because my head is still filled with questions even as I lay in my bed and close my eyes. The good thing is today’s session has made me realize that there is a deeper aspect that connects the money and relationship problems in my life.
Day 13: Minimum Viable Lifestyle
I have spent the majority of this past week answering one basic question: “What problem am I trying to solve in my life?”, at least in terms of money.
The result is that I realize even though I don’t know how much money I’m going to make this month, I know how much money I need to make this month. I did that by writing down what I call a “minimum viable lifestyle”. From this minimum lifestyle I want, I calculated the minimum viable income it will take to live according to the lifestyle.
Getting this clarity has helped me greatly to get perspective on my life, and what I need to do from here. One thing that I notice is even though I haven’t done much “work”, but taking the time to get clear on the problem makes it feel like I’ve used this week in a good way.
Day 14: Not Feeling I need Tapping
I have to admit that I have not been doing the Tapping on a consecutive basis. There are some days where I am out almost all day long and forget to do it.
Plus, I am also trying a new approach in life by doing things when I feel like doing them. The theory behind this is when I feel or want to do something, then it means that something does need to be done.
I am not feeling I need Tapping especially right now. It has helped me in the past and I will use it in the future, but for now I want to focus my energy on other projects. In short, I am writing this to tell you I won’t be continuing with the 40-day Tapping challenge.
On the bright side, this might actually prove that Tapping does work. It works so well, that I no longer feel stressed or anxious or frustrated so I don’t need to tap anymore! I know I still need to take care of the ‘technical’ issues regarding actually making money, but I am not feeling that afraid anymore.
In fact, this month has been spent mostly on studying and reframing my business mindset. Even so, I am close to making the amount of money I want to make for this month. The less I am afraid about not making money, the more I actually make the amount of money I want.